Life After 50 in the OC: When Did It Become Okay For Everything To Be About “You”?

Have I been asleep or was the change so gradual that nobody noticed?
When did it become okay for everyone to put themselves and their immediate wants and needs first?  Was there some kind of ruling that your word, contracts and promises didn’t matter anymore?  Or have we all just excused those types of behaviors for so long, along with diminishing the values of integrity, loyalty and respect… that we didn’t even notice that they had been put on the endangered species list?
Couples get married with pre-planned escape clauses and prenuptuals everyday.  Kids say "yes" to their parents and break the rule or agreement before they ever get to the front door.  People take on jobs and projects without the intention of staying or ever finishing.  Birth-parents give up their children and their responsibilities in ever increasing numbers and then comeback when it works for them, no matter what the impact on the adoptive parents or the children they gave up, or the provisions of the adoption.  Kids dishonor their parents consistently and then call to be bailed out as if their previous actions didn’t matter.  Big business and the government, often together, lie to all of us everyday, and act like it’s okay because we are too dumb to understand.  Polititians say whatever it takes to get elected, and then try to tell us they need to "watch us" for national security.  Celebritities break every rule in the book and we forgive them, as if it has no effect on our children or our society.  Dating has become "all about me", immediate gratification, and sex, not about getting to know people, building relationships, and love.  And when people treat you or your loved ones wrong, or break their agreements or laws the montra is forgive and forget no matter what (by the perpetrators)… and those that lived by the rules and agreements or were hurt along the way need to just "get over it" or live with the consequences.
When did that happen and is that the kind of world you want to live in… one where the cheaters win and the givers and law-abiders are fools?

About Ask Marion

I am a babyboomer and empty nester who savors every moment of my past and believes that it is the responsibility of each of us in my generation and Americans in general to make sure that America is as good or even a better place for future generations as it was for us. So far... we haven't done very well!! Favorite Quotes: "The first 50 years are to build and acquire; the second 50 are to leave your legacy"; "Do something that scares you every day!"; "The journey in between what you once were and who you are becoming is where the dance of life really takes place". At age 62 I find myself fighting inoperable uterine Cancer and thanks to the man upstairs and the prayers from so many people including many of my readers from AskMarion and JustOneMorePet... I'm beating it. After losing our business because of the economy and factors related to the re-election of President Obama in 2012 followed by 16-mos of job hunting, my architect-trained husband is working as a trucker and has only been home approximately 5-days a month since I was diagnosed, which has made everything more difficult and often lonely... plus funds are tight. Our family medical deductible is 12K per year for two of us; thank you ObamaCare. But thanks to donations from so many of you, we are making ends meet as I go through treatment while taking care of my father-in-law who is suffering from late stage Alzheimer's and my mother-in-law who suffers from RA and onset dementia as well as hearing loss, for which there are no caretaker funds, as I continue the fight here online to inform and help restore our amazing country. And finally I need to thank a core group of family, friends, and readers... all at a distance, who check in with me regularly. Plus, I must thank my furkids who have not left my side through this fight. You can see them at JustOneMorePet.
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